Saturday, July 3, 2010

Ferber: Night Two Part Two


So it looks like the erection was premature (sorry, I couldn't resist). Ferber is as difficult as I thought it would be. Nate cried for two different rounds over the night - once around 11pm for 75 minutes and the other at 5am for 45. I mean, look at that little cherub! It was so, so hard to leave him each time as he sat there alone in his crib exhausted and crying. On the bright side, there was no vomit. What's killing me is that he is already afraid of his crib. He used to enjoy playing in there for a few minutes over the course of the day. Now, when we even get close he clings to me and starts to cry. Ferber and many pediatricians claim that the trust between parent and child isn't damaged in anyway throughout this process. I don't know if I buy that. And as someone else somewhere said (I can't remember where) - you can't raise a child twice.

1 comment:

kmjba8 said...

One tip, that may not be ferber, and may not work but did wonders for us...

When we laid Ivy down we'd "shush" a little when we gave her the final goodnight-squeeze - even though she wasn't crying...it was like teaching her to associate our sound with our touch and comfort. If she cried, I would stand at the door and shush for 2 minutes every 20 minutes that she cried. Then, if she woke in the middle of the night we would just "shush" from our bed. After 10 minutes crying I'd check on her, and if she was okay - no fever, no poop, no vomit - I'd go back to bed and we'd keep shushing from there. It worked great, but we started early - she was 5 months old through the worst of it. I decided sooner rather than later would be easier on her...I had the same approach with taking her bottle (9 months) and transitioning to a "big girl bed" (21 months).

Isa has needed none of that. A bottle and a hug and she's happy to see her bed.

Good luck!

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