Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Ferber Round Two Update

We began Ferberizing again over the weekend. Nate had finished his course of antibiotics and was basically snot free. He's teething...but he always seems to be teething. We figured it was either go back to Ferber or sleep in forty minute increments for the rest of eternity.

I hate the process and love it at the same time. The hate part? I don't have a thick skin when it comes to Nate crying out for me. I want to go to him and make everything better. It physically hurts me to hear him scream and cry. But the problem is - I can't make everything better. He NEEDS to get used to going back to sleep without my assistance or the three of us will never get a good night's sleep. Ugh. I so wish I could just nurse him or rock him to sleep and then he would sleep the entire night through like when he was three months old. But it doesn't work that way for us. Does it sound like I'm trying to convince myself? I guess I am, because after four nights there is still a good amount of crying. Not for long periods, but frequently (usually every one to three hours).

The love part? I do see improvement. He cries for a minute or two when we initially put him down to sleep, but he settles down very quickly. Those few minutes of pain absolutely beat rocking and rocking and rocking over twenty pounds and thirty inches of baby. Then doing it again forty minutes later. And then an hour later. And then...you get the idea. And I have hope. The second night he slept for a stretch of over six hours, which he hasn't done in forever. And although he wakes frequently, we usually don't have to go in at all - he settles down before the first time increment is up.

Hopefully we'll continue to see improvement. And hopefully he won't get sick again for awhile. Now we have to tackle those naps...

4 comments:

kmjba8 said...

Hooray for a healthy Nate, and hooray for 6 hours of sleep! I've got my fingers crossed for you! Oh, btw, my sister once told me of a woman who went to the garage to sleep because she couldn't stand the cry it out either... You're not the only one!

Amber@Nater Tot said...

Well I didn't have to sleep in the garage last night because there was virtually no crying! YAY! He only woke up once, and it was time to nurse (we're working hard to eliminate the night time feedings). After he nursed he went back to the crib WITHOUT crying - a first. So we got a seven hour stretch AND two successful "put downs."

Meaghan said...

Nice to know others with older babies are still dealing with sleep struggles. I thought we had gotten past the terrible sleep, with the occasional hiccups each week. Then this week 2 nites in a row he awoke around 1 am, and made it so hard to get him back to sleep - he would end up in bed with us and I eventually got him to fall asleep on me. After 2 nites of that I decided it was time to let im cry it out again. So last nite when I put him down for the nite (after he fell asleep rocking) and he immediately jumped up I just left and had to let him SCREAM for about 10 to 20 minutes. Then when he woke at what must have been 1ish (my hubby and I were both unsure if we had dreamt it) I turned off the monitor when I heard him. So at some point he fell back asleep, and altho I am told he woke up and cried briefly short thereafter, he ended up sleeping in his crib until 7:30 am. Woo hoo! Hoping to have another good nite (altho i put him down asleep tonite)

Amber@Nater Tot said...

Oh Meaghan! No, you are not alone! It sucks - from what I understand sleep disruptions can occur every time they get sick or travel or teeth or go through a growth spurt or are working on achieving a milestones...so basically ALL the time. Ugh. So glad he slept until 7:30! Good luck tonight!! My fingers are crossed for you.

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